Nobody can deny whether you are a man or woman, girl or boy hearing the words “I love you” will always have an effect on you. It can mean a lot of things but for most people it makes us feel good.
Words are important because they are used every day in all spheres of life; it is one of the cornerstones of communication that forms the language that we speak to one another. Words can have a powerful effect on a person. I recently read in an article that stated the average person speaks about 16,000 words a day, that’s 112,000 words every week – that’s over five million words every year! WOW. Now ask yourself ‘am I using my words to lift people up or tear them down?’
Out of these vast numbers of words how often do we say… “I love you”
I interviewed my seven-year-old sister to find out what she thought about the statement “I love you” and her thoughts of love in general. The interview went something like this…
Elijah: How do you feel when someone tells you “I love you”? For example if mum, dad or a friend said it?
Deborah-Abigail: If mummy or daddy says it I feel cared for; it touches me and I feel happy and cheerful.
Elijah: How often do YOU say “I love you”?
Deborah-Abigail: I say it sometimes.
Elijah: Have you ever said “I love you” and not mean it?
Deborah-Abigail: Yes I have. If I’m angry I would say it but deep down I would know I didn’t mean it.
Elijah: Could you give me an example of this?
Deborah-Abigail: If I fight with my brother or sister and mum asks me to say “I’m sorry” and “I love them.”
Elijah: How do you show that you love God?
Deborah-Abigail: By worshipping Him, obeying His laws and listening to Him.
It was interesting to hear what my sister had to say about the statement “I love you”. Using those three little words to one another can encourage us and make us feel appreciated and cherished. God tells us each and every day that He loves us whether it’s in our quiet time with Him, or through His word or by His actions. Hearing those words from God renews our spirit – it makes us feel special.
What is even more crucial is the heart in which we say things. Luke 6:45 says “A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” If we store evil in our hearts it will come out in the words we say hence why the Bible warns us in Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” The condition of our heart is the key; it walks hand-in-hand with our motives and actions.
I truly believe that we have to submit all the words we say unto the Lord and ask God every day to cleanse us and give us a new heart. Saying “I love you” should always be said in purist sincerity.
We all need a daily heart check-up!