Part time Lover – Part 2

Marriage is a beautiful thing. A total of 231,490 couples got married in the UK in 2009. That’s quite a large number of people who each day decided to dedicate their lives to each other in holy matrimony.

In my last article I was discussing part-time love and urging you and me to become a full-time lover of God. Let us begin this chapter with me taking you on the journey on how marriage is portrayed in our society – starting with Hollywood.

Now Hollywood movies paint this perfect picture on how two people fall in love, get married and ride off into the sunset. How amazing, but and there is a large BUT, as soon as this image doesn’t seem to be working you bail out and have a relationship with someone else that your heart desires. Some celebrities seem to be constantly getting married, whereas others are stepping into marriage with large prenuptial agreements which need to be taken care of first before any ‘lovey-dovey’ can begin. Very few are willing to work at a marriage and are led purely by their feelings; the sad thing about feelings is that they’re like the weather – they constantly change and can be fickle! The sanctity of marriage is being disregarded, it has to be respected and honoured; Genesis 2:24 (NIV) says, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”

Marriage is just like our relationship with Christ; He is the Groom and He is constantly showing and demonstrating His love for us, but at times we almost dictate to Christ when He can and cannot have us. Isn’t that sad, Christ died 100 percent on the Cross but on Monday and Tuesday He is just going to get 78 percent of us. We have to respect what Christ has done for us and give ourselves freely to Him, however this is easier said than done but we have to take it one day at a time.

Christ wants the whole of us but many things on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis strive for our attention. The devil can use these ‘things’ to distract us so that we get so caught up and instead of spending quality time with God we find ourselves putting Him 5th place in our ‘to-do list’ for the day.

Imagine this scenario: a wife has got all dressed up and is ready to go out with her husband to celebrate their wedding anniversary. The husband has not forgotten (thankfully) but says he has a few things to do before meeting her (e.g. hanging out with the boys after work, etc). He will make their dinner reservation and arrange to meet her at the restaurant. Fast forward a couple hours, the wife is seated at the restaurant waiting for her husband, people come and go, the restaurant is about to close for the evening and the wife is the last person there, still waiting. She eventually leaves and goes home. She wakes up in the morning to find her husband has made her breakfast in bed with roses and a huge sign saying “SORRY”.

Now, what would be your response to the scenario? No doubt one response (out of many) would probably be ‘how could that husband do that, didn’t he know that his wife was waiting, what was so important?’ Now imagine yourself as the husband and Christ as the wife in the scenario. Christ is waiting, willing and excited to spend time with you but you are so busy with other things. Christ isn’t saying that these other things don’t matter, but He is saying He has to come first!!!

As my pastor says “it’s a heart issue.” If the enemy can get these so called ‘things’ in our life to become more important, it can cause our hearts to be turned against God; Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

We have to protect our heart so that our love for God does not wax cold.

May God help us!

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