Jealousy is a dangerous thing that can catch us all off guard. Let me speak from my own life; it has caught me off guard many times. I would not have considered myself an envious or jealous person, but the Bible does say, “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall.”

Recently, I caught myself feel the sharp pang of jealousy in the strangest of settings. I was having a conversation with a group of friends; we were informally talking about our respective weeks. One of the ladies started to share about a challenge she had faced and in this particular scenario, her attitude had been really bad. She went on to tell us how the Holy Spirit had convicted her and prompted her to repent. Now, this is quite normal practice amongst my friends; so what, you may be thinking, what was I jealous of?

While my friend was sharing, I thought to myself, “look at everybody, listening to her talking about her relationship with God, going on about how He convicts her, I want to have stories like that, that I can share with people”.

The issue what this; I wanted to be the one telling the story, not her.


I thank God that He showed me how ugly and sinful that thought was, and I would like to share with you some things He taught me through it.

1) The Mind Is A Battlefield
We cannot afford to be passive about what goes through our minds. We must be deliberate about rejecting and speaking against thoughts that are contrary to the will of God.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV)

2) Thoughts Can Reveal Our Weaknesses And Insecurities
I know that God uses me to bless others. Even by writing this blog, God is speaking to His people and using my mistakes for His glory, just like He was using my friend on that day. So why did I feel jealous?

I think it has more to do with my insecurities than the actual truth. As women and men too, we should always ask God to show us where our insecurities lie, and when He does, ask Him to cleanse and heal us.

Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
Psalm 139:23-24 (NIV)

3) Have A Grateful Heart
Cultivate the habit of thanksgiving. Thank God for the people He has placed in your life that bless you. Thank Him for what He has done in your life since you were saved. Thank Him for the gifts He places in others. Thank Him for his patient and longsuffering nature; give thanks for His compassion and mercies toward us that are renewed every day. Bless Him for His love towards us and sacrifice for us.

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV)

If you are someone who often has jealous thoughts, you must take them captive.

Next time you feel envious about someone, confess it to God “Lord please forgive me for thinking about my friend/ colleague/ sister/ brother in that envious way…” and then say a short prayer of thanksgiving to Him, “Father, I thank you for how you have blessed my friend/ colleague/ sister/ brother with that gift, you truly are a good God”.

It is hard at first, trust me, but this will begin to transform the way you see people and transform the way you think. We are too precious to allow the poison of jealousy to ruin the work God longs to do in us.

Remember …“we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10 (ESV)

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